I am so woefully sick of gendershits spewing nonsense mantras like “sexual attraction is based on [some gender bullshit]” – can we please require Internet goons to take a basic linguistics course before opening their mouths?
Sexual ATTRACTION is based on whatever the hell is attractive to someone. Tallness, shortness, red hair, blue eyes, a cute laugh, a warm smile, a kind demeanor, a shared penchant for Xena fan fiction.
Sexual ORIENTATION describes the sex(es) to whom you are sexually attracted: male and/or female. Doing the math in a sexually dimorphic species, one is either homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, or asexual.
Attraction to some vague notion of “femininity” isn’t an “orientation.” It’s an attraction, or more accurately, a fetish.
Not synonyms. Not in need of “reexamining” or “unlearning.” Not ever.